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After screen time soared and sexual activity took a hit during lockdown, it’s a good reminder that nurturing your libido and finding pleasure solo or with a partner is a powerful form of self-care. Not to mention, it can be a measure of overall health and wellness. “I think libido is a vital sign, another way of checking in on the body and the body talking to us,” says Dr. Taz Bhatia, integrative wellness physician and host of the Super Woman Wellness podcast. “Don’t dismiss it.” The first step to charting your sex drive? Understanding your libido better. This National Masturbation Month, three experts break down everything you need to know about your libido and how to boost it for better sexual wellness.Different people may define the term in different ways, but scientifically speaking, libido is typically used to refer to one’s overall sex drive, or the degree to which someone has interest in and desire for sex. “It’s probably best to think of libido as a biopsychosocial phenomenon, meaning it is affected by a mix of biological, psychological, and social and environmental factors,” explains Justin Lehmiller, PhD, social psychologist, sex researcher, and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute.In the simplest of terms, low libido is when there is minimal to no sexual interest and desire, while, conversely, high libido is when there is frequent or strong sexual interest and desire, says Lehmiller. However, he and many other experts underline that sex drive is a subjective parameter and varies from one individual to the next. “Each person likely measures their level of drive based on what they consider to be their ‘normal,’ so once a week may be normal for one person while every day might be normal for someone else,” explains Anita Sadaty, MD, attending physician in obstetrics and gynecology at Northwell Health System.When guiding patients through what impacts their libido, Sadaty most often finds the following to be underlying causes:Sadaty also notes that mood disorders, such as anxiety and depression, can curb sex drive. As can pain with intercourse. On the whole, sexual desire tends to follow the curve of hormone levels for women. “It is highest probably in late teens and 20s, may dip in the 30s for some, and then may be more impacted in 40s and 50s,” explains Sadaty. “There are so many reasons for this, but as a general rule as we get older life can become more complicated, relationships become harder in some cases, stress levels rise, hormones fluctuate or drop, and medical issues can arise.””I think women have been super stressed during the pandemic and lockdown and for most, libido has gone down,” explains Bhatia, also noting the declining birth rate. “The juggling is overwhelming and intimacy is thrown out the window.” Sadaty has also seen a tremendous drop in libido for many women directly related to stress, epidemic levels of anxiety and depression, and the rise in the use of psychotropic medications, relationship discord, and isolation. Supporting what’s been observed anecdotally, at the Kinsey Institute Lehmiller participated in a longitudinal study last year that explored how COVID-19 affected people’s sex lives and relationships. “One of the things we found among women was that sexual desire, sexual frequency, and partnered sex all declined compared to pre-pandemic levels,” he explains. “This makes sense, given what a uniquely stressful period this was.” Additionally, other studies have found that women’s libido was affected more than men’s, with a bigger decrease in women’s masturbation compared to men. “One factor is that we saw greater concern about the pandemic among women, and to the extent that women were more anxious overall last year, that could have translated to a bigger effect on their sex drive,” he explains. “But it’s also the case that women were disproportionately stressed during the pandemic, especially in terms of picking up more parenting, household, and caregiver responsibilities compared to men.””Boosting libido requires a deeper dive into the cause and once that is uncovered you can [better] direct treatment,” says Sadaty, who encourages women to consult a doctor to help identify underlying causes of low libido, as well as develop sex drive-boosting strategies. If one’s libido level is causing persistent, sustained distress or problems in one’s life, Lehmiller recommends consulting with a physician or a certified sex therapist to locate the cause or causes, because treatment will vary depending on whether the root is a hormone issue, stress, relationship problems, or another issue. That being said, there are many things a woman can do on her own including “mindfulness or meditation techniques to reduce stress, incorporating more novelty into one’s sex life such as using sex toys, because novelty can help to awaken sexual excitement and desire, and taking more time to build arousal,” he explains.”Some women only tend to experience what’s known as ‘responsive desire,’ which refers to desire that appears in response to pleasure and sexual activity,” he continues. “This is different from ‘spontaneous desire,’ which is the kind of sexual desire that just hits you out of the blue. Some women with low desire are just more of the responsive type, which requires taking a different approach to sex and looking for more external stimulators and ways to build arousal so that the desire component kicks in.” I recall the moment clearly. I was 15 years old, I had just paid the first month’s rent ($400, I believe) on a new home, and I was standing at the front door. This wasn’t just the door to a ramshackle one-room cabin with no electricity or plumbing. It was a magical threshold. I was leaving behind my childhood at a tender age, but truthfully it had been abandoned long before. I reasoned that I could either live in a cabin with an abusive father, or I could just…live in a cabin. I chose the latter.I opened the door full of anticipation, but as soon as the hinges gave way, I felt dizzy. I peered inside, but didn’t see the bare floor, nor the two paint-splattered saw-horses spanned by a plank of plywood, creating a makeshift table. I saw a stretch of darkness yawn before me. The dizziness began to bloom darkly in my mind: Is my future my own? Is my fate sealed? Is it already over? Happiness was not taught in my house; was it still a learnable skill? Was it too late?I crumpled where I stood on the porch of this unkempt cabin in the middle of the Alaskan wilderness. The enormity of what I was taking on hit me, and I felt small, powerless to redirect a life that, it seemed, had already been set on an irrevocable course. It was simple: How I was raised was how I would live. I saw it all in a terrible, illuminating flash. Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. The anger. The abuse. The isolation. The alcoholism. It didn’t take a genius to see that kids like me became a statistic.Don’t get me wrong, I also inherited the good, and I saw that: I come from a creative, bright, adventurous, philosophical, and loquacious people. My childhood was full of self-possessed capable aunts who cut their own timber and built their own homes and ran their own cattle businesses. I had a father who let me work horses rather than cook, because there were no gender-assigned roles in Alaska. Everyone wrote their own music and poetry, played a variety of self-taught instruments, and painted and sculpted with impressive proficiency. I am certainly not the only “talent” in my clan. And sometimes bitter fruit grows alongside the sweet.Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. My dad’s childhood home, which he described with heartbreaking beauty in his own memoir, Son of a Midnight Land, was not a safe one. Abuses were doled out regularly, but worst of all, at random. When he was drafted and went to Vietnam at age 18, my dad told me he found it relaxing. Back home and married, he vowed to do better than his dad. But unless a carpenter is taught a new trade, he will keep using a hammer. My mom left. Dad was suddenly a single father. He began drinking. And the family cycle began to repeat itself. Hurt people hurt people. For 15 years I’d been raised, spoken to, and educated in the damaging emotional language of my family, and I was fluent in it.I saw all of this in that moment on the porch. But it took the sting out—it suddenly didn’t feel as personal. This wasn’t about me being unlovable. We do the best we can with the skills we have been given. The anger lifted, and a sense of compassion flooded me. I saw my grandfather not as a villain, but a hurt man. I saw my father not as a villain, but as a hurt man. And I saw myself, a hurt young woman, who, if I didn’t learn a new way, would repeat some variant of the cycle.An adult Jewel standing in front of the cabin in which she lived alone as a teenager. What do you do with pain? You, reading this. Do you check out? Drink? Log on to Twitter? Get angry? Do you avoid it? I sang in bars from the age of eight, so I had a front-row seat to people trying to outrun pain. They never could, despite the drinking, sex, violent outbursts, and drugs. I vowed never to do those things. I wrote instead.And stole. It began when I wound up homeless at 18 after refusing the sexual advances of a boss. He withheld my paycheck in retribution, and I couldn’t make rent. I lived in my car until it too was stolen.Three short years after moving out on my own, having put myself through school, traveled around the country, and supported myself, there I was—record scratch—in a dressing room in Pacific Beach, California, shoving a dress down the front of my baggy 501’s. I hadn’t beaten any odds.Stealing soothed my panic attacks. I know it may sound odd, but stealing felt as though I was caring for myself. It did what any good medication does: distracted me from my pain, rewarding me with a cocktail of pleasurable neuro-chemicals. I got myself addicted to drugs by manipulating my own brain chemistry—and never had to take a pill. Brilliant!But looking at my reflection in that dressing room mirror, I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I journaled often, and I began to use it as a tool to observe my actions and feelings. I began to see patterns, and soon a triad emerged—there was a before, a during, an after. Addiction had an anatomy! Years later, I learned better words for this—stimulus, response, reward—but I had nonetheless stumbled upon a way to identify a cycle of addiction. And I wondered, if I’m capable of being addicted to something self-destructive, like stealing, could I become addicted to something good? I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I had little control over being homeless (other than the endless job search, which is nearly impossible with no physical address and no nice clothing). But I could control how I responded to the stress and anxiety of that situation—at least in theory. (What do people with high anxiety lack? The ability to be present enough to witness thoughts in real time before acting on them.) If I could observe I was scared, I was something other than scared. I was the observer of someone scared. This created a specific, powerful space, and put me in the driver’s seat of my life.Spoiler alert: I didn’t become a poet and songwriter to be famous. I became a writer to stop stealing.I began to develop tools and tricks for myself to cultivate awareness, and with time, was able to successfully replace stealing with writing. It didn’t feel all that great initially. Writing was pretty boring compared to stealing. Plus writing urged me toward my pain, rather than away from it. But with time, moving toward my pain became rewarding, because through observation and understanding, it began to become less intense, and with time had less and less power over my life. Writing gave me a calm and open high, whereas stealing was a contracted, tight one. For Kendall Jenner, public speaking is a frequent source of anxiety. “I really, really don’t like public speaking; it makes me nervous and uncomfortable. But then there’s moments in my life as a public figure that I do have to kind of be in that position,” the model shares. “If I have something coming up that’s bringing me out of my comfort zone…it can consume me to the point where I’m not focusing on what is happening to me that day or in that moment. I’m just worried about what is going to happen in the future.”In the last installment of Open Minded, Vogue’s four-part series exploring anxiety and how the mental condition can impact everyday life, Jenner sits with psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb to discuss where anxiety about the future stems from. “Anticipatory anxiety is when you are feeling anxious about something that hasn’t happened yet and may never happen,” explains Gottlieb. “So you’re anticipating that something catastrophic or disastrous is going to happen.”Because stress and anxiety can affect all aspects of mental well-being, including memory retention, Gottlieb shares tips for staying grounded in the present, from awakening the individual senses one by one to rubbing ice in your hands. “It really brings you into the present because you have to really notice.” Natalia Vodianova may be best known as the Russian supermodel who has taken the fashion world by storm for the last two decades, but she’s also a staunch activist for women’s health—an issue that is, in fact, very close to the Soviet Union–born 39-year-old’s heart. “[Where] I was brought up, gynecology was something that was shameful—and anything to do with menstruation or any kind of sexual relationship was hush-hush and something you didn’t really talk about,” recalls Vodianova, who notes that, even as she became one of the industry’s most in-demand faces, she continued to be embarrassed when she had to ask for a tampon or when she stained a hotel’s sheets.Eventually, as she overcame her insecurities, she began to fight for women who may still feel the sense of shame that once plagued her. In addition to investing in the period-tracking app Flo, and asking friends such as Emily Ratajkowski and Doutzen Kroes to open up about their own early experiences with menstruating in her video series “Let’s Talk About it. Period.,” she teamed up with the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA), the UN’s sexual and reproductive health agency. “In humanitarian crises, we think of [how we can provide] water, food, and shelter, but often menstruation [care] is overlooked completely,” explains Vodianova, a UNFPA Goodwill Ambassador. “Already being in a very, very tough situation, but also not being able to manage your period with dignity, is a huge burden and a double stigmatization.” It’s for this reason that UNFPA first began distributing “dignity kits” to women and girls in conflict zones. (Last year, 1.4 million kits were handed out across 58 countries.) Housed inside a small backpack or bucket, each kit comes stocked with a number of essentials, including a flashlight, washing powder, dark-colored underwear, and a reusable menstrual pad set as well as disposable menstrual pads. “I once had the opportunity to speak to a woman who had survived a cyclone in 2019 in Mozambique. She was stuck on a tree for hours trying to survive, and suddenly her period came in the middle of all of this. When she was finally rescued, she was put on a boat with a bunch of men and blood was running down her legs. She [remembered thinking], ‘I would rather die than feel this shame,’ ” says Vodianova, continuing: “When she got into the refugee camp she was met with a dignity kit from the UNFPA. 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After screen time soared and sexual activity took a hit during lockdown, it’s a good reminder that nurturing your libido and finding pleasure solo or with a partner is a powerful form of self-care. Not to mention, it can be a measure of overall health and wellness. “I think libido is a vital sign, another way of checking in on the body and the body talking to us,” says Dr. Taz Bhatia, integrative wellness physician and host of the Super Woman Wellness podcast. “Don’t dismiss it.” The first step to charting your sex drive? Understanding your libido better. This National Masturbation Month, three experts break down everything you need to know about your libido and how to boost it for better sexual wellness.Different people may define the term in different ways, but scientifically speaking, libido is typically used to refer to one’s overall sex drive, or the degree to which someone has interest in and desire for sex. “It’s probably best to think of libido as a biopsychosocial phenomenon, meaning it is affected by a mix of biological, psychological, and social and environmental factors,” explains Justin Lehmiller, PhD, social psychologist, sex researcher, and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute.In the simplest of terms, low libido is when there is minimal to no sexual interest and desire, while, conversely, high libido is when there is frequent or strong sexual interest and desire, says Lehmiller. However, he and many other experts underline that sex drive is a subjective parameter and varies from one individual to the next. “Each person likely measures their level of drive based on what they consider to be their ‘normal,’ so once a week may be normal for one person while every day might be normal for someone else,” explains Anita Sadaty, MD, attending physician in obstetrics and gynecology at Northwell Health System.When guiding patients through what impacts their libido, Sadaty most often finds the following to be underlying causes:Sadaty also notes that mood disorders, such as anxiety and depression, can curb sex drive. As can pain with intercourse. On the whole, sexual desire tends to follow the curve of hormone levels for women. “It is highest probably in late teens and 20s, may dip in the 30s for some, and then may be more impacted in 40s and 50s,” explains Sadaty. “There are so many reasons for this, but as a general rule as we get older life can become more complicated, relationships become harder in some cases, stress levels rise, hormones fluctuate or drop, and medical issues can arise.””I think women have been super stressed during the pandemic and lockdown and for most, libido has gone down,” explains Bhatia, also noting the declining birth rate. “The juggling is overwhelming and intimacy is thrown out the window.” Sadaty has also seen a tremendous drop in libido for many women directly related to stress, epidemic levels of anxiety and depression, and the rise in the use of psychotropic medications, relationship discord, and isolation. Supporting what’s been observed anecdotally, at the Kinsey Institute Lehmiller participated in a longitudinal study last year that explored how COVID-19 affected people’s sex lives and relationships. “One of the things we found among women was that sexual desire, sexual frequency, and partnered sex all declined compared to pre-pandemic levels,” he explains. “This makes sense, given what a uniquely stressful period this was.” Additionally, other studies have found that women’s libido was affected more than men’s, with a bigger decrease in women’s masturbation compared to men. “One factor is that we saw greater concern about the pandemic among women, and to the extent that women were more anxious overall last year, that could have translated to a bigger effect on their sex drive,” he explains. “But it’s also the case that women were disproportionately stressed during the pandemic, especially in terms of picking up more parenting, household, and caregiver responsibilities compared to men.””Boosting libido requires a deeper dive into the cause and once that is uncovered you can [better] direct treatment,” says Sadaty, who encourages women to consult a doctor to help identify underlying causes of low libido, as well as develop sex drive-boosting strategies. If one’s libido level is causing persistent, sustained distress or problems in one’s life, Lehmiller recommends consulting with a physician or a certified sex therapist to locate the cause or causes, because treatment will vary depending on whether the root is a hormone issue, stress, relationship problems, or another issue. That being said, there are many things a woman can do on her own including “mindfulness or meditation techniques to reduce stress, incorporating more novelty into one’s sex life such as using sex toys, because novelty can help to awaken sexual excitement and desire, and taking more time to build arousal,” he explains.”Some women only tend to experience what’s known as ‘responsive desire,’ which refers to desire that appears in response to pleasure and sexual activity,” he continues. “This is different from ‘spontaneous desire,’ which is the kind of sexual desire that just hits you out of the blue. Some women with low desire are just more of the responsive type, which requires taking a different approach to sex and looking for more external stimulators and ways to build arousal so that the desire component kicks in.” I recall the moment clearly. I was 15 years old, I had just paid the first month’s rent ($400, I believe) on a new home, and I was standing at the front door. This wasn’t just the door to a ramshackle one-room cabin with no electricity or plumbing. It was a magical threshold. I was leaving behind my childhood at a tender age, but truthfully it had been abandoned long before. I reasoned that I could either live in a cabin with an abusive father, or I could just…live in a cabin. I chose the latter.I opened the door full of anticipation, but as soon as the hinges gave way, I felt dizzy. I peered inside, but didn’t see the bare floor, nor the two paint-splattered saw-horses spanned by a plank of plywood, creating a makeshift table. I saw a stretch of darkness yawn before me. The dizziness began to bloom darkly in my mind: Is my future my own? Is my fate sealed? Is it already over? Happiness was not taught in my house; was it still a learnable skill? Was it too late?I crumpled where I stood on the porch of this unkempt cabin in the middle of the Alaskan wilderness. The enormity of what I was taking on hit me, and I felt small, powerless to redirect a life that, it seemed, had already been set on an irrevocable course. It was simple: How I was raised was how I would live. I saw it all in a terrible, illuminating flash. Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. The anger. The abuse. The isolation. The alcoholism. It didn’t take a genius to see that kids like me became a statistic.Don’t get me wrong, I also inherited the good, and I saw that: I come from a creative, bright, adventurous, philosophical, and loquacious people. My childhood was full of self-possessed capable aunts who cut their own timber and built their own homes and ran their own cattle businesses. I had a father who let me work horses rather than cook, because there were no gender-assigned roles in Alaska. Everyone wrote their own music and poetry, played a variety of self-taught instruments, and painted and sculpted with impressive proficiency. I am certainly not the only “talent” in my clan. And sometimes bitter fruit grows alongside the sweet.Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. My dad’s childhood home, which he described with heartbreaking beauty in his own memoir, Son of a Midnight Land, was not a safe one. Abuses were doled out regularly, but worst of all, at random. When he was drafted and went to Vietnam at age 18, my dad told me he found it relaxing. Back home and married, he vowed to do better than his dad. But unless a carpenter is taught a new trade, he will keep using a hammer. My mom left. Dad was suddenly a single father. He began drinking. And the family cycle began to repeat itself. Hurt people hurt people. For 15 years I’d been raised, spoken to, and educated in the damaging emotional language of my family, and I was fluent in it.I saw all of this in that moment on the porch. But it took the sting out—it suddenly didn’t feel as personal. This wasn’t about me being unlovable. We do the best we can with the skills we have been given. The anger lifted, and a sense of compassion flooded me. I saw my grandfather not as a villain, but a hurt man. I saw my father not as a villain, but as a hurt man. And I saw myself, a hurt young woman, who, if I didn’t learn a new way, would repeat some variant of the cycle.An adult Jewel standing in front of the cabin in which she lived alone as a teenager. What do you do with pain? You, reading this. Do you check out? Drink? Log on to Twitter? Get angry? Do you avoid it? I sang in bars from the age of eight, so I had a front-row seat to people trying to outrun pain. They never could, despite the drinking, sex, violent outbursts, and drugs. I vowed never to do those things. I wrote instead.And stole. It began when I wound up homeless at 18 after refusing the sexual advances of a boss. He withheld my paycheck in retribution, and I couldn’t make rent. I lived in my car until it too was stolen.Three short years after moving out on my own, having put myself through school, traveled around the country, and supported myself, there I was—record scratch—in a dressing room in Pacific Beach, California, shoving a dress down the front of my baggy 501’s. I hadn’t beaten any odds.Stealing soothed my panic attacks. I know it may sound odd, but stealing felt as though I was caring for myself. It did what any good medication does: distracted me from my pain, rewarding me with a cocktail of pleasurable neuro-chemicals. I got myself addicted to drugs by manipulating my own brain chemistry—and never had to take a pill. Brilliant!But looking at my reflection in that dressing room mirror, I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I journaled often, and I began to use it as a tool to observe my actions and feelings. I began to see patterns, and soon a triad emerged—there was a before, a during, an after. Addiction had an anatomy! Years later, I learned better words for this—stimulus, response, reward—but I had nonetheless stumbled upon a way to identify a cycle of addiction. And I wondered, if I’m capable of being addicted to something self-destructive, like stealing, could I become addicted to something good? I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I had little control over being homeless (other than the endless job search, which is nearly impossible with no physical address and no nice clothing). But I could control how I responded to the stress and anxiety of that situation—at least in theory. (What do people with high anxiety lack? The ability to be present enough to witness thoughts in real time before acting on them.) If I could observe I was scared, I was something other than scared. I was the observer of someone scared. This created a specific, powerful space, and put me in the driver’s seat of my life.Spoiler alert: I didn’t become a poet and songwriter to be famous. I became a writer to stop stealing.I began to develop tools and tricks for myself to cultivate awareness, and with time, was able to successfully replace stealing with writing. It didn’t feel all that great initially. Writing was pretty boring compared to stealing. Plus writing urged me toward my pain, rather than away from it. But with time, moving toward my pain became rewarding, because through observation and understanding, it began to become less intense, and with time had less and less power over my life. Writing gave me a calm and open high, whereas stealing was a contracted, tight one. For Kendall Jenner, public speaking is a frequent source of anxiety. “I really, really don’t like public speaking; it makes me nervous and uncomfortable. But then there’s moments in my life as a public figure that I do have to kind of be in that position,” the model shares. “If I have something coming up that’s bringing me out of my comfort zone…it can consume me to the point where I’m not focusing on what is happening to me that day or in that moment. I’m just worried about what is going to happen in the future.”In the last installment of Open Minded, Vogue’s four-part series exploring anxiety and how the mental condition can impact everyday life, Jenner sits with psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb to discuss where anxiety about the future stems from. “Anticipatory anxiety is when you are feeling anxious about something that hasn’t happened yet and may never happen,” explains Gottlieb. “So you’re anticipating that something catastrophic or disastrous is going to happen.”Because stress and anxiety can affect all aspects of mental well-being, including memory retention, Gottlieb shares tips for staying grounded in the present, from awakening the individual senses one by one to rubbing ice in your hands. “It really brings you into the present because you have to really notice.” Natalia Vodianova may be best known as the Russian supermodel who has taken the fashion world by storm for the last two decades, but she’s also a staunch activist for women’s health—an issue that is, in fact, very close to the Soviet Union–born 39-year-old’s heart. “[Where] I was brought up, gynecology was something that was shameful—and anything to do with menstruation or any kind of sexual relationship was hush-hush and something you didn’t really talk about,” recalls Vodianova, who notes that, even as she became one of the industry’s most in-demand faces, she continued to be embarrassed when she had to ask for a tampon or when she stained a hotel’s sheets.Eventually, as she overcame her insecurities, she began to fight for women who may still feel the sense of shame that once plagued her. In addition to investing in the period-tracking app Flo, and asking friends such as Emily Ratajkowski and Doutzen Kroes to open up about their own early experiences with menstruating in her video series “Let’s Talk About it. Period.,” she teamed up with the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA), the UN’s sexual and reproductive health agency. “In humanitarian crises, we think of [how we can provide] water, food, and shelter, but often menstruation [care] is overlooked completely,” explains Vodianova, a UNFPA Goodwill Ambassador. “Already being in a very, very tough situation, but also not being able to manage your period with dignity, is a huge burden and a double stigmatization.” It’s for this reason that UNFPA first began distributing “dignity kits” to women and girls in conflict zones. (Last year, 1.4 million kits were handed out across 58 countries.) Housed inside a small backpack or bucket, each kit comes stocked with a number of essentials, including a flashlight, washing powder, dark-colored underwear, and a reusable menstrual pad set as well as disposable menstrual pads. “I once had the opportunity to speak to a woman who had survived a cyclone in 2019 in Mozambique. She was stuck on a tree for hours trying to survive, and suddenly her period came in the middle of all of this. When she was finally rescued, she was put on a boat with a bunch of men and blood was running down her legs. She [remembered thinking], ‘I would rather die than feel this shame,’ ” says Vodianova, continuing: “When she got into the refugee camp she was met with a dignity kit from the UNFPA. She told me, ‘That changed my life.’ She felt really empowered, and she became an ambassador in this camp to convince other women to take the kit and use proper sanitary products.” Product detail for this product: Fashion field involves the best minds to carefully craft the design. The t-shirt industry is a very competitive field and involves many risks. The cost per t-shirt varies proportionally to the total quantity of t-shirts. We are manufacturing exceptional-quality t-shirts at a very competitive price. We use only the best DTG printers available to produce the finest-quality images possible that won’t wash out of the shirts. Custom orders are always welcome. We can customize all of our designs to your needs! Please feel free to contact us if you have any questions. We accept all major credit cards (Visa, Mastercard, American Express, Discover), PayPal, or prepayment by Check, Money Order, or Bank Wire. For schools, universities, and government organizations, we accept purchase orders and prepayment by check Material Type: 35% Cotton – 65% Polyester Soft material feels great on your skin and very light Features pronounced sleeve cuffs, prominent waistband hem and kangaroo pocket fringes Taped neck and shoulders for comfort and style Print: Dye-sublimation printing, colors won’t fade or peel Wash Care: Recommendation Wash it by hand in below 30-degree water, hang to dry in shade, prohibit bleaching, Low Iron if Necessary Vist our store at: Ironmantee This product belong to hung2
If you love this shirt, please click on the link to buy it now: B-29 Superfortress Proud US Air Force Shirt – USAF Military T-Shirt This product printed in US America quickly delivery and easy tracking your shipment With multi styles Unisex T-shirt Premium T-Shirt Tank Top Hoodie Sweatshirt Womens T-shirt Long Sleeve near me. AliensDesignTshirt Kansas City Chiefs And Kansas City Royals Heart T-shirt Premium Customize Digital Printing design also available multi colors black white blue orange redgrey silver yellow green forest brown multi sizes S M L XL 2XL 3XL 4XL Buy product AliensDesignTshirt Kansas City Chiefs And Kansas City Royals Heart T-shirt You can gift it for mom dad papa mommy daddy mama boyfriend girlfriend grandpa grandma grandfather grandmother husband wife family teacher Its also casual enough to wear for working out shopping running jogging hiking biking or hanging out with friends Unique design personalized design for Valentines day St Patricks day Mothers day Fathers day Birthday More info 53 oz ? pre-shrunk cotton Double-needle stitched neckline bottom hem and sleeves Quarter turned Seven-eighths inch seamless collar Shoulder-to-shoulder taping “Masturbation is nice because I get off social media for a bit,” comedian and author Ginny Hogan recently tweeted. After screen time soared and sexual activity took a hit during lockdown, it’s a good reminder that nurturing your libido and finding pleasure solo or with a partner is a powerful form of self-care. Not to mention, it can be a measure of overall health and wellness. “I think libido is a vital sign, another way of checking in on the body and the body talking to us,” says Dr. Taz Bhatia, integrative wellness physician and host of the Super Woman Wellness podcast. “Don’t dismiss it.” The first step to charting your sex drive? Understanding your libido better. This National Masturbation Month, three experts break down everything you need to know about your libido and how to boost it for better sexual wellness.Different people may define the term in different ways, but scientifically speaking, libido is typically used to refer to one’s overall sex drive, or the degree to which someone has interest in and desire for sex. “It’s probably best to think of libido as a biopsychosocial phenomenon, meaning it is affected by a mix of biological, psychological, and social and environmental factors,” explains Justin Lehmiller, PhD, social psychologist, sex researcher, and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute.In the simplest of terms, low libido is when there is minimal to no sexual interest and desire, while, conversely, high libido is when there is frequent or strong sexual interest and desire, says Lehmiller. However, he and many other experts underline that sex drive is a subjective parameter and varies from one individual to the next. “Each person likely measures their level of drive based on what they consider to be their ‘normal,’ so once a week may be normal for one person while every day might be normal for someone else,” explains Anita Sadaty, MD, attending physician in obstetrics and gynecology at Northwell Health System.When guiding patients through what impacts their libido, Sadaty most often finds the following to be underlying causes:Sadaty also notes that mood disorders, such as anxiety and depression, can curb sex drive. As can pain with intercourse. On the whole, sexual desire tends to follow the curve of hormone levels for women. “It is highest probably in late teens and 20s, may dip in the 30s for some, and then may be more impacted in 40s and 50s,” explains Sadaty. “There are so many reasons for this, but as a general rule as we get older life can become more complicated, relationships become harder in some cases, stress levels rise, hormones fluctuate or drop, and medical issues can arise.””I think women have been super stressed during the pandemic and lockdown and for most, libido has gone down,” explains Bhatia, also noting the declining birth rate. “The juggling is overwhelming and intimacy is thrown out the window.” Sadaty has also seen a tremendous drop in libido for many women directly related to stress, epidemic levels of anxiety and depression, and the rise in the use of psychotropic medications, relationship discord, and isolation. Supporting what’s been observed anecdotally, at the Kinsey Institute Lehmiller participated in a longitudinal study last year that explored how COVID-19 affected people’s sex lives and relationships. “One of the things we found among women was that sexual desire, sexual frequency, and partnered sex all declined compared to pre-pandemic levels,” he explains. “This makes sense, given what a uniquely stressful period this was.” Additionally, other studies have found that women’s libido was affected more than men’s, with a bigger decrease in women’s masturbation compared to men. “One factor is that we saw greater concern about the pandemic among women, and to the extent that women were more anxious overall last year, that could have translated to a bigger effect on their sex drive,” he explains. “But it’s also the case that women were disproportionately stressed during the pandemic, especially in terms of picking up more parenting, household, and caregiver responsibilities compared to men.””Boosting libido requires a deeper dive into the cause and once that is uncovered you can [better] direct treatment,” says Sadaty, who encourages women to consult a doctor to help identify underlying causes of low libido, as well as develop sex drive-boosting strategies. If one’s libido level is causing persistent, sustained distress or problems in one’s life, Lehmiller recommends consulting with a physician or a certified sex therapist to locate the cause or causes, because treatment will vary depending on whether the root is a hormone issue, stress, relationship problems, or another issue. That being said, there are many things a woman can do on her own including “mindfulness or meditation techniques to reduce stress, incorporating more novelty into one’s sex life such as using sex toys, because novelty can help to awaken sexual excitement and desire, and taking more time to build arousal,” he explains.”Some women only tend to experience what’s known as ‘responsive desire,’ which refers to desire that appears in response to pleasure and sexual activity,” he continues. “This is different from ‘spontaneous desire,’ which is the kind of sexual desire that just hits you out of the blue. Some women with low desire are just more of the responsive type, which requires taking a different approach to sex and looking for more external stimulators and ways to build arousal so that the desire component kicks in.” I recall the moment clearly. I was 15 years old, I had just paid the first month’s rent ($400, I believe) on a new home, and I was standing at the front door. This wasn’t just the door to a ramshackle one-room cabin with no electricity or plumbing. It was a magical threshold. I was leaving behind my childhood at a tender age, but truthfully it had been abandoned long before. I reasoned that I could either live in a cabin with an abusive father, or I could just…live in a cabin. I chose the latter.I opened the door full of anticipation, but as soon as the hinges gave way, I felt dizzy. I peered inside, but didn’t see the bare floor, nor the two paint-splattered saw-horses spanned by a plank of plywood, creating a makeshift table. I saw a stretch of darkness yawn before me. The dizziness began to bloom darkly in my mind: Is my future my own? Is my fate sealed? Is it already over? Happiness was not taught in my house; was it still a learnable skill? Was it too late?I crumpled where I stood on the porch of this unkempt cabin in the middle of the Alaskan wilderness. The enormity of what I was taking on hit me, and I felt small, powerless to redirect a life that, it seemed, had already been set on an irrevocable course. It was simple: How I was raised was how I would live. I saw it all in a terrible, illuminating flash. Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. The anger. The abuse. The isolation. The alcoholism. It didn’t take a genius to see that kids like me became a statistic.Don’t get me wrong, I also inherited the good, and I saw that: I come from a creative, bright, adventurous, philosophical, and loquacious people. My childhood was full of self-possessed capable aunts who cut their own timber and built their own homes and ran their own cattle businesses. I had a father who let me work horses rather than cook, because there were no gender-assigned roles in Alaska. Everyone wrote their own music and poetry, played a variety of self-taught instruments, and painted and sculpted with impressive proficiency. I am certainly not the only “talent” in my clan. And sometimes bitter fruit grows alongside the sweet.Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. My dad’s childhood home, which he described with heartbreaking beauty in his own memoir, Son of a Midnight Land, was not a safe one. Abuses were doled out regularly, but worst of all, at random. When he was drafted and went to Vietnam at age 18, my dad told me he found it relaxing. Back home and married, he vowed to do better than his dad. But unless a carpenter is taught a new trade, he will keep using a hammer. My mom left. Dad was suddenly a single father. He began drinking. And the family cycle began to repeat itself. Hurt people hurt people. For 15 years I’d been raised, spoken to, and educated in the damaging emotional language of my family, and I was fluent in it.I saw all of this in that moment on the porch. But it took the sting out—it suddenly didn’t feel as personal. This wasn’t about me being unlovable. We do the best we can with the skills we have been given. The anger lifted, and a sense of compassion flooded me. I saw my grandfather not as a villain, but a hurt man. I saw my father not as a villain, but as a hurt man. And I saw myself, a hurt young woman, who, if I didn’t learn a new way, would repeat some variant of the cycle.An adult Jewel standing in front of the cabin in which she lived alone as a teenager. What do you do with pain? You, reading this. Do you check out? Drink? Log on to Twitter? Get angry? Do you avoid it? I sang in bars from the age of eight, so I had a front-row seat to people trying to outrun pain. They never could, despite the drinking, sex, violent outbursts, and drugs. I vowed never to do those things. I wrote instead.And stole. It began when I wound up homeless at 18 after refusing the sexual advances of a boss. He withheld my paycheck in retribution, and I couldn’t make rent. I lived in my car until it too was stolen.Three short years after moving out on my own, having put myself through school, traveled around the country, and supported myself, there I was—record scratch—in a dressing room in Pacific Beach, California, shoving a dress down the front of my baggy 501’s. I hadn’t beaten any odds.Stealing soothed my panic attacks. I know it may sound odd, but stealing felt as though I was caring for myself. It did what any good medication does: distracted me from my pain, rewarding me with a cocktail of pleasurable neuro-chemicals. I got myself addicted to drugs by manipulating my own brain chemistry—and never had to take a pill. Brilliant!But looking at my reflection in that dressing room mirror, I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I journaled often, and I began to use it as a tool to observe my actions and feelings. I began to see patterns, and soon a triad emerged—there was a before, a during, an after. Addiction had an anatomy! Years later, I learned better words for this—stimulus, response, reward—but I had nonetheless stumbled upon a way to identify a cycle of addiction. And I wondered, if I’m capable of being addicted to something self-destructive, like stealing, could I become addicted to something good? I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I had little control over being homeless (other than the endless job search, which is nearly impossible with no physical address and no nice clothing). But I could control how I responded to the stress and anxiety of that situation—at least in theory. (What do people with high anxiety lack? The ability to be present enough to witness thoughts in real time before acting on them.) If I could observe I was scared, I was something other than scared. I was the observer of someone scared. This created a specific, powerful space, and put me in the driver’s seat of my life.Spoiler alert: I didn’t become a poet and songwriter to be famous. I became a writer to stop stealing.I began to develop tools and tricks for myself to cultivate awareness, and with time, was able to successfully replace stealing with writing. It didn’t feel all that great initially. Writing was pretty boring compared to stealing. Plus writing urged me toward my pain, rather than away from it. But with time, moving toward my pain became rewarding, because through observation and understanding, it began to become less intense, and with time had less and less power over my life. Writing gave me a calm and open high, whereas stealing was a contracted, tight one. For Kendall Jenner, public speaking is a frequent source of anxiety. “I really, really don’t like public speaking; it makes me nervous and uncomfortable. But then there’s moments in my life as a public figure that I do have to kind of be in that position,” the model shares. “If I have something coming up that’s bringing me out of my comfort zone…it can consume me to the point where I’m not focusing on what is happening to me that day or in that moment. I’m just worried about what is going to happen in the future.”In the last installment of Open Minded, Vogue’s four-part series exploring anxiety and how the mental condition can impact everyday life, Jenner sits with psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb to discuss where anxiety about the future stems from. “Anticipatory anxiety is when you are feeling anxious about something that hasn’t happened yet and may never happen,” explains Gottlieb. “So you’re anticipating that something catastrophic or disastrous is going to happen.”Because stress and anxiety can affect all aspects of mental well-being, including memory retention, Gottlieb shares tips for staying grounded in the present, from awakening the individual senses one by one to rubbing ice in your hands. “It really brings you into the present because you have to really notice.” Natalia Vodianova may be best known as the Russian supermodel who has taken the fashion world by storm for the last two decades, but she’s also a staunch activist for women’s health—an issue that is, in fact, very close to the Soviet Union–born 39-year-old’s heart. “[Where] I was brought up, gynecology was something that was shameful—and anything to do with menstruation or any kind of sexual relationship was hush-hush and something you didn’t really talk about,” recalls Vodianova, who notes that, even as she became one of the industry’s most in-demand faces, she continued to be embarrassed when she had to ask for a tampon or when she stained a hotel’s sheets.Eventually, as she overcame her insecurities, she began to fight for women who may still feel the sense of shame that once plagued her. In addition to investing in the period-tracking app Flo, and asking friends such as Emily Ratajkowski and Doutzen Kroes to open up about their own early experiences with menstruating in her video series “Let’s Talk About it. Period.,” she teamed up with the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA), the UN’s sexual and reproductive health agency. “In humanitarian crises, we think of [how we can provide] water, food, and shelter, but often menstruation [care] is overlooked completely,” explains Vodianova, a UNFPA Goodwill Ambassador. “Already being in a very, very tough situation, but also not being able to manage your period with dignity, is a huge burden and a double stigmatization.” It’s for this reason that UNFPA first began distributing “dignity kits” to women and girls in conflict zones. (Last year, 1.4 million kits were handed out across 58 countries.) Housed inside a small backpack or bucket, each kit comes stocked with a number of essentials, including a flashlight, washing powder, dark-colored underwear, and a reusable menstrual pad set as well as disposable menstrual pads. “I once had the opportunity to speak to a woman who had survived a cyclone in 2019 in Mozambique. She was stuck on a tree for hours trying to survive, and suddenly her period came in the middle of all of this. When she was finally rescued, she was put on a boat with a bunch of men and blood was running down her legs. She [remembered thinking], ‘I would rather die than feel this shame,’ ” says Vodianova, continuing: “When she got into the refugee camp she was met with a dignity kit from the UNFPA. She told me, ‘That changed my life.’ She felt really empowered, and she became an ambassador in this camp to convince other women to take the kit and use proper sanitary products.” Product detail for this product: Fashion field involves the best minds to carefully craft the design. The t-shirt industry is a very competitive field and involves many risks. The cost per t-shirt varies proportionally to the total quantity of t-shirts. We are manufacturing exceptional-quality t-shirts at a very competitive price. We use only the best DTG printers available to produce the finest-quality images possible that won’t wash out of the shirts. Custom orders are always welcome. We can customize all of our designs to your needs! Please feel free to contact us if you have any questions. We accept all major credit cards (Visa, Mastercard, American Express, Discover), PayPal, or prepayment by Check, Money Order, or Bank Wire. 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AliensDesignTshirt Kansas City Chiefs And Kansas City Royals Heart T-shirt Premium Customize Digital Printing design also available multi colors black white blue orange redgrey silver yellow green forest brown multi sizes S M L XL 2XL 3XL 4XL Buy product AliensDesignTshirt Kansas City Chiefs And Kansas City Royals Heart T-shirt You can gift it for mom dad papa mommy daddy mama boyfriend girlfriend grandpa grandma grandfather grandmother husband wife family teacher Its also casual enough to wear for working out shopping running jogging hiking biking or hanging out with friends Unique design personalized design for Valentines day St Patricks day Mothers day Fathers day Birthday More info 53 oz ? pre-shrunk cotton Double-needle stitched neckline bottom hem and sleeves Quarter turned Seven-eighths inch seamless collar Shoulder-to-shoulder taping “Masturbation is nice because I get off social media for a bit,” comedian and author Ginny Hogan recently tweeted. After screen time soared and sexual activity took a hit during lockdown, it’s a good reminder that nurturing your libido and finding pleasure solo or with a partner is a powerful form of self-care. Not to mention, it can be a measure of overall health and wellness. “I think libido is a vital sign, another way of checking in on the body and the body talking to us,” says Dr. Taz Bhatia, integrative wellness physician and host of the Super Woman Wellness podcast. “Don’t dismiss it.” The first step to charting your sex drive? Understanding your libido better. This National Masturbation Month, three experts break down everything you need to know about your libido and how to boost it for better sexual wellness.Different people may define the term in different ways, but scientifically speaking, libido is typically used to refer to one’s overall sex drive, or the degree to which someone has interest in and desire for sex. “It’s probably best to think of libido as a biopsychosocial phenomenon, meaning it is affected by a mix of biological, psychological, and social and environmental factors,” explains Justin Lehmiller, PhD, social psychologist, sex researcher, and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute.In the simplest of terms, low libido is when there is minimal to no sexual interest and desire, while, conversely, high libido is when there is frequent or strong sexual interest and desire, says Lehmiller. However, he and many other experts underline that sex drive is a subjective parameter and varies from one individual to the next. “Each person likely measures their level of drive based on what they consider to be their ‘normal,’ so once a week may be normal for one person while every day might be normal for someone else,” explains Anita Sadaty, MD, attending physician in obstetrics and gynecology at Northwell Health System.When guiding patients through what impacts their libido, Sadaty most often finds the following to be underlying causes:Sadaty also notes that mood disorders, such as anxiety and depression, can curb sex drive. As can pain with intercourse. On the whole, sexual desire tends to follow the curve of hormone levels for women. “It is highest probably in late teens and 20s, may dip in the 30s for some, and then may be more impacted in 40s and 50s,” explains Sadaty. “There are so many reasons for this, but as a general rule as we get older life can become more complicated, relationships become harder in some cases, stress levels rise, hormones fluctuate or drop, and medical issues can arise.””I think women have been super stressed during the pandemic and lockdown and for most, libido has gone down,” explains Bhatia, also noting the declining birth rate. “The juggling is overwhelming and intimacy is thrown out the window.” Sadaty has also seen a tremendous drop in libido for many women directly related to stress, epidemic levels of anxiety and depression, and the rise in the use of psychotropic medications, relationship discord, and isolation. Supporting what’s been observed anecdotally, at the Kinsey Institute Lehmiller participated in a longitudinal study last year that explored how COVID-19 affected people’s sex lives and relationships. “One of the things we found among women was that sexual desire, sexual frequency, and partnered sex all declined compared to pre-pandemic levels,” he explains. “This makes sense, given what a uniquely stressful period this was.” Additionally, other studies have found that women’s libido was affected more than men’s, with a bigger decrease in women’s masturbation compared to men. “One factor is that we saw greater concern about the pandemic among women, and to the extent that women were more anxious overall last year, that could have translated to a bigger effect on their sex drive,” he explains. “But it’s also the case that women were disproportionately stressed during the pandemic, especially in terms of picking up more parenting, household, and caregiver responsibilities compared to men.””Boosting libido requires a deeper dive into the cause and once that is uncovered you can [better] direct treatment,” says Sadaty, who encourages women to consult a doctor to help identify underlying causes of low libido, as well as develop sex drive-boosting strategies. If one’s libido level is causing persistent, sustained distress or problems in one’s life, Lehmiller recommends consulting with a physician or a certified sex therapist to locate the cause or causes, because treatment will vary depending on whether the root is a hormone issue, stress, relationship problems, or another issue. That being said, there are many things a woman can do on her own including “mindfulness or meditation techniques to reduce stress, incorporating more novelty into one’s sex life such as using sex toys, because novelty can help to awaken sexual excitement and desire, and taking more time to build arousal,” he explains.”Some women only tend to experience what’s known as ‘responsive desire,’ which refers to desire that appears in response to pleasure and sexual activity,” he continues. “This is different from ‘spontaneous desire,’ which is the kind of sexual desire that just hits you out of the blue. Some women with low desire are just more of the responsive type, which requires taking a different approach to sex and looking for more external stimulators and ways to build arousal so that the desire component kicks in.” I recall the moment clearly. I was 15 years old, I had just paid the first month’s rent ($400, I believe) on a new home, and I was standing at the front door. This wasn’t just the door to a ramshackle one-room cabin with no electricity or plumbing. It was a magical threshold. I was leaving behind my childhood at a tender age, but truthfully it had been abandoned long before. I reasoned that I could either live in a cabin with an abusive father, or I could just…live in a cabin. I chose the latter.I opened the door full of anticipation, but as soon as the hinges gave way, I felt dizzy. I peered inside, but didn’t see the bare floor, nor the two paint-splattered saw-horses spanned by a plank of plywood, creating a makeshift table. I saw a stretch of darkness yawn before me. The dizziness began to bloom darkly in my mind: Is my future my own? Is my fate sealed? Is it already over? Happiness was not taught in my house; was it still a learnable skill? Was it too late?I crumpled where I stood on the porch of this unkempt cabin in the middle of the Alaskan wilderness. The enormity of what I was taking on hit me, and I felt small, powerless to redirect a life that, it seemed, had already been set on an irrevocable course. It was simple: How I was raised was how I would live. I saw it all in a terrible, illuminating flash. Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. The anger. The abuse. The isolation. The alcoholism. It didn’t take a genius to see that kids like me became a statistic.Don’t get me wrong, I also inherited the good, and I saw that: I come from a creative, bright, adventurous, philosophical, and loquacious people. My childhood was full of self-possessed capable aunts who cut their own timber and built their own homes and ran their own cattle businesses. I had a father who let me work horses rather than cook, because there were no gender-assigned roles in Alaska. Everyone wrote their own music and poetry, played a variety of self-taught instruments, and painted and sculpted with impressive proficiency. I am certainly not the only “talent” in my clan. And sometimes bitter fruit grows alongside the sweet.Just as I had received a genetic inheritance, so did I receive an emotional one. My dad’s childhood home, which he described with heartbreaking beauty in his own memoir, Son of a Midnight Land, was not a safe one. Abuses were doled out regularly, but worst of all, at random. When he was drafted and went to Vietnam at age 18, my dad told me he found it relaxing. Back home and married, he vowed to do better than his dad. But unless a carpenter is taught a new trade, he will keep using a hammer. My mom left. Dad was suddenly a single father. He began drinking. And the family cycle began to repeat itself. Hurt people hurt people. For 15 years I’d been raised, spoken to, and educated in the damaging emotional language of my family, and I was fluent in it.I saw all of this in that moment on the porch. But it took the sting out—it suddenly didn’t feel as personal. This wasn’t about me being unlovable. We do the best we can with the skills we have been given. The anger lifted, and a sense of compassion flooded me. I saw my grandfather not as a villain, but a hurt man. I saw my father not as a villain, but as a hurt man. And I saw myself, a hurt young woman, who, if I didn’t learn a new way, would repeat some variant of the cycle.An adult Jewel standing in front of the cabin in which she lived alone as a teenager. What do you do with pain? You, reading this. Do you check out? Drink? Log on to Twitter? Get angry? Do you avoid it? I sang in bars from the age of eight, so I had a front-row seat to people trying to outrun pain. They never could, despite the drinking, sex, violent outbursts, and drugs. I vowed never to do those things. I wrote instead.And stole. It began when I wound up homeless at 18 after refusing the sexual advances of a boss. He withheld my paycheck in retribution, and I couldn’t make rent. I lived in my car until it too was stolen.Three short years after moving out on my own, having put myself through school, traveled around the country, and supported myself, there I was—record scratch—in a dressing room in Pacific Beach, California, shoving a dress down the front of my baggy 501’s. I hadn’t beaten any odds.Stealing soothed my panic attacks. I know it may sound odd, but stealing felt as though I was caring for myself. It did what any good medication does: distracted me from my pain, rewarding me with a cocktail of pleasurable neuro-chemicals. I got myself addicted to drugs by manipulating my own brain chemistry—and never had to take a pill. Brilliant!But looking at my reflection in that dressing room mirror, I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I journaled often, and I began to use it as a tool to observe my actions and feelings. I began to see patterns, and soon a triad emerged—there was a before, a during, an after. Addiction had an anatomy! Years later, I learned better words for this—stimulus, response, reward—but I had nonetheless stumbled upon a way to identify a cycle of addiction. And I wondered, if I’m capable of being addicted to something self-destructive, like stealing, could I become addicted to something good? I knew I’d wind up in jail or dead if I didn’t go back to the drawing board.I had little control over being homeless (other than the endless job search, which is nearly impossible with no physical address and no nice clothing). But I could control how I responded to the stress and anxiety of that situation—at least in theory. (What do people with high anxiety lack? The ability to be present enough to witness thoughts in real time before acting on them.) If I could observe I was scared, I was something other than scared. I was the observer of someone scared. This created a specific, powerful space, and put me in the driver’s seat of my life.Spoiler alert: I didn’t become a poet and songwriter to be famous. I became a writer to stop stealing.I began to develop tools and tricks for myself to cultivate awareness, and with time, was able to successfully replace stealing with writing. It didn’t feel all that great initially. Writing was pretty boring compared to stealing. Plus writing urged me toward my pain, rather than away from it. But with time, moving toward my pain became rewarding, because through observation and understanding, it began to become less intense, and with time had less and less power over my life. Writing gave me a calm and open high, whereas stealing was a contracted, tight one. For Kendall Jenner, public speaking is a frequent source of anxiety. “I really, really don’t like public speaking; it makes me nervous and uncomfortable. But then there’s moments in my life as a public figure that I do have to kind of be in that position,” the model shares. “If I have something coming up that’s bringing me out of my comfort zone…it can consume me to the point where I’m not focusing on what is happening to me that day or in that moment. I’m just worried about what is going to happen in the future.”In the last installment of Open Minded, Vogue’s four-part series exploring anxiety and how the mental condition can impact everyday life, Jenner sits with psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb to discuss where anxiety about the future stems from. “Anticipatory anxiety is when you are feeling anxious about something that hasn’t happened yet and may never happen,” explains Gottlieb. “So you’re anticipating that something catastrophic or disastrous is going to happen.”Because stress and anxiety can affect all aspects of mental well-being, including memory retention, Gottlieb shares tips for staying grounded in the present, from awakening the individual senses one by one to rubbing ice in your hands. “It really brings you into the present because you have to really notice.” Natalia Vodianova may be best known as the Russian supermodel who has taken the fashion world by storm for the last two decades, but she’s also a staunch activist for women’s health—an issue that is, in fact, very close to the Soviet Union–born 39-year-old’s heart. “[Where] I was brought up, gynecology was something that was shameful—and anything to do with menstruation or any kind of sexual relationship was hush-hush and something you didn’t really talk about,” recalls Vodianova, who notes that, even as she became one of the industry’s most in-demand faces, she continued to be embarrassed when she had to ask for a tampon or when she stained a hotel’s sheets.Eventually, as she overcame her insecurities, she began to fight for women who may still feel the sense of shame that once plagued her. In addition to investing in the period-tracking app Flo, and asking friends such as Emily Ratajkowski and Doutzen Kroes to open up about their own early experiences with menstruating in her video series “Let’s Talk About it. Period.,” she teamed up with the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA), the UN’s sexual and reproductive health agency. “In humanitarian crises, we think of [how we can provide] water, food, and shelter, but often menstruation [care] is overlooked completely,” explains Vodianova, a UNFPA Goodwill Ambassador. “Already being in a very, very tough situation, but also not being able to manage your period with dignity, is a huge burden and a double stigmatization.” It’s for this reason that UNFPA first began distributing “dignity kits” to women and girls in conflict zones. (Last year, 1.4 million kits were handed out across 58 countries.) Housed inside a small backpack or bucket, each kit comes stocked with a number of essentials, including a flashlight, washing powder, dark-colored underwear, and a reusable menstrual pad set as well as disposable menstrual pads. “I once had the opportunity to speak to a woman who had survived a cyclone in 2019 in Mozambique. She was stuck on a tree for hours trying to survive, and suddenly her period came in the middle of all of this. When she was finally rescued, she was put on a boat with a bunch of men and blood was running down her legs. She [remembered thinking], ‘I would rather die than feel this shame,’ ” says Vodianova, continuing: “When she got into the refugee camp she was met with a dignity kit from the UNFPA. 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